Have you heard the famous English expression :”Stop the world , I want to get off!” ?
This expression refers to a feeling of stress or panic that makes a person want to stop whatever they are doing, relax and regain their mental calm.
Whenever I hear the word ‘stress’, I visualize an image where I’m looking ahead for my marks when the exam paper gets distributed or the moment when I forget my assignment work and the teacher asks for it.
But I do agree that the meaning of stress changes as we go through different phases in our life.
What is stress?
Dictionary says it is a neutral word that refers to our reaction to any type of change, it can be, desired or undesired and expected or unexpected. We react with our whole mind that is, both in thoughts and emotions, brain (neurochemical and electrical activity), and body (physiological responses).
Do you know, stress is actually a good thing because it means we’re still alive to feel it. A robot can’t react to stress because it doesn’t have feelings.
But too much stress freaks us out and pushes us into overdrive. If we experience too much stress for some time, we are at risk for a ton of physical as well as mental health difficulties.
What humans actually need is a ‘balanced stress’. This may seem easier said than done. And the most common question now arises, ‘How in the world do we create balanced stress?’.
How to create a ‘balanced stress’.
1. Stop the thought of controlling everything.
It is true that so much in life is beyond our control. As much as we’d like to, there are still things that we can’t change. Every time you encounter a stressful situation, make up your mind that “This too shall pass”. Just remember, we really don’t need to eliminate stress but to balance our response to it.
2. Focus on things that matter most.
One of the keys to balancing our stress is to focus on what is important to us and what really matters. Don’t take everything you see into your mind and worry about it.
3. Identifying your values.
Knowing what you want in your life helps us to shape your decisions and choose your actions wisely. Explore everything and know what you are good and bad at. Explore things you love to do.
4. Thoughts and emotions.
Keep your thoughts and emotions balanced. When you catch yourself feeling stressed, pause and look at or listen to the thing that helps you remember what’s important to you in your life.
5. Practice meditation and exercise.
One of the most effective ways to deal with stress is to learn how to silence the mind and meditation helps us to achieve this. And another way is to exercise. From jogging to taking long walks, everything helps us out.
6. Don’t overthink and overreact.
Sometimes our overthinking skills act as if adding fuel to the fire. Why can’t we just stop overthinking and creating scenarios in our mind which are not gonna happen in the real world?
As Sydney Harris said,
” When I hear somebody sigh, ‘Life is hard,’ I am always tempted to ask, ‘Compared to what?’ “
Life is challenging. but sometimes our expectation makes it more challenging and leads to stress. If we focus on being grateful for everything we have now and stop expecting anything, we would definitely be more positive as well as feel less stressed.